14-18 August 2012 Days 16 - 20 of My Own 30 Days

I try to keep my post positive and uplifting it is what people need and honestly it is what the world needs.  There are few topics that can not really be spoken about enough.  In the Army they kind of get drilled into us but it really isn't a bad thing at all.  The world is full of problems.  Most will never be solved.  There are certain individuals that reach a breaking point.  They have lost total control of their lives.  They no longer own it they have completely lost it.  People that are on the brink of suicide have totally lost control of everything.  They do not own their life nor do they want to live their life.  There is no light for them.  They do not seek the light.  They do not even care about the light.  There are a multitude of reasons as to why they have reached this point.  You have to sit down and talk with them in depth about why they are at this point in their life.  Another tragedy that is totally unforgivable and devastating is sexual assault.  These people may of owned their lives but someone stepped in and totally ripped their life away from them.  The sheer shock of going through something like this makes it so hard to try to own your life.  I will try to touch on both of these subjects.  Individuals that go through a suicide attempt may have a rebirth a reawakening and decide they want to live their life and own their life.  Some may fall further into the darkness.  Individuals that experience some form of sexual assault have lost total control of their life.  They go through a multitude of emotions and feelings which may lead to suicide.  There is hope for them.  It is a tough and long journey but they can get on the path to owning their life.  If these are touchy subjects for you I do apologize.  This may be one day you want to skip. 

Suicide

     Most people view suicide as a cowards way out.  Let us face fact though.  Someone that has reached that crossroad in their life has a lot going on in their head or they may have nothing going on in their head.  They are walking down the road and left leads to a dead end and right leads to life.  They choose to take the left.    There are signs of suicide.

Have you heard someone say?

• Life isn't worth living
• My family would be better off without me
• Next time I'll take enough pills to do the job right
• Take my (prized collection, valuables) - I don't need this stuff anymore
• I won't be around to deal with that
• You'll be sorry when I'm gone
• I won't be in your way much longer
• I just can't deal with everything -- life's too hard
• Nobody understands me -- nobody feels the way I do
• There's nothing I can do to make it better
• I'd be better off dead
• I feel like there is no way out

Have you observed?

• Getting affairs in order (paying off debts, changing a will)
• Giving away articles of either personal or monetary value
• Signs of planning a suicide such as obtaining a weapon or writing a suicide note

Again the individual may be going through a number of things such as depression or hard time at home or work.  Do not get confused though.  Someone who is paying off debt is not automatically suicidal just look for some other warning signs.  If you know someone that may be suicidal do not stigmatize them.  Help them.  Get them back on the path to owning their life.  If you are thinking about suicide or you know someone who might be: 

Check out www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or National Suicide Hot line 1-800-273-TALK(8255)

Sexual Assault

This is one crime that is so totally devastating that it destroys the core of the individual assaulted.  Someone who can do this to some other person has totally lost control of their life and have no regard for human life or decency.  They want to cause someone pain in the worst way possible.  They want to totally destroy and individual.  An individual that experiences this type of horrific tragedy can go through years and years of pain develop PTSD and honestly lose control of their life and spiral out of control.  We as a society should do everything we can to prevent this type of crime from happening.  I feel that someone that commits this type of assault is not worthy of life because they have stolen an individuals life.  If you know someone who has experienced this type of horrific tragedy please help them to seek help.  They may go through a multitude of emotions or actions.  They may become very reckless with their life for the fact that their life has been totally destroyed because of the assault.  This type isn't limited to strangers.  Husbands are doing it to their wives.  Friends are doing it to their friends.  Relatives to each other.  There needs to be more awareness for this.  This needs to be stopped there is not excuse for this type of horrific crime and someone that commits it should be treated as a domestic terrorist and receive the worst possible sentence.  If you know someone who has gone through this I urge you to check out the following:

www.RAINN.org or Hot line 1-800-656-HOPE

RAINN is a great resource.  I encourage you to check out the website and share it with a victim. 

Both of these (Suicide, Sexual Assault) Are 100% preventable.  Do not turn a blind eye to either of these.  These individuals have experienced such a horrific event that they no longer care about their life or want to own their life.  There are ways to get them back on the path to owning their life.  If you feel that you can not provide them with assistance please get them to a qualified professional who can.  The resources I listed are not the only ones out there.  Google is a great resource to find the information you need.   

I do apologize for the serious topics but they are mountains in the path of someone trying to own their life.  We should all work towards owning our life.  The individuals that went through these tragedies have had their life ripped away from them.  Lets help them get it back.  Thank you for reading.

Jason